before letting go

nobody likes bad experiences. nobody wants to remember painful memories.

we are often told all our lives that when you fall down, get up, dust your knees and get going.

but, so often in life, including trading, there is something different or more that cries to be done.

it is noticed that so many irritating and painful events have a tendency of repeating. one of the key reasons is that the root cause of their happening remains intact.

therefore, when anything happens that shouldn't have happened, though it is so important for you to overcome it and move forward, while you are dusting your knees and consoling yourself to move forward, you must pause for a second and do the following.

look straight into the eyes of what went wrong even though that is the thing you would like to forget and not recall. just for one last time. purposefully, deliberately and courageously dive into the details of what happened. lay it threadbare and understand it.

and don't leave till you have understood why it happened.

it hurt you by happening and now you hurt it back by understanding it. this way two benefits will happen. one, its spell would be broken and you wouldn't have to carry the mental scar of it all your life. its fear will be gone as its emotions would have burnt to the ashes in the heat of pure ruthless logic. second, you would know why it happened. you will, chances are, smile, slap yourself, shake your head in disbelief and move on with lighter feet. in the process, you would get automatically programmed to not doing that mistake again.

mistakes and pains avoided are the ones that don't go away and become cables and monsters.

the classic James-Lenge principle also underlines that - "you don't run because you fear, you fear because you run."

so, next time your trade goes wrong, before you forget it, understand it. and then, let it go.